Every mommy clique has one – the queen bee! And Emily from “Pretty Wicked Moms” is the group’s confident leader. While the popular fashionista and high-end boutique owner would “rather slit her throat than have a playdate,” she does love being a mom to her two-year-old daughter, Amzie. Read on to hear Emily’s take on getting on her “bad side,” plus her beauty and style don’ts for moms and her own parenting fails.
Q: Have you ever used your kids as an excuse to get out of something? Explain!
A: OMG, have I? Of course I have used my child as an excuse to get out of something! Every parent has – and if they say they haven’t, they are lying!! For example, I have had several nights where I would have dinner plans with friends, and at the last minute, after a long day of work, I didn’t want to go. I have called and acted as if my nanny had something come up or somewhere to be and it was too late in the evening to find a sitter. It is always a good excuse, because it’s not like one of your friends would ever say, “Well, I will keep her and you just go out with the girls” or “Just bring her to dinner with us”! Hahaha So that one works like a charm.
Q: What’s the best way to get out of a playdate?
A: I would say Amzie was sick and I didn’t want to bring her around the other kids and get them sick.
Q: Name your three biggest parenting fails!
1. Letting Amzie sleep in the bed with my husband and me from the day she arrived home from the hospital, because getting her out was a process.
2. Working too much. I beat myself up about it a lot and I try to consciously balance it, but I am human and I fail sometimes.
3. Letting Amzie still have her pacifier. I have taken it away, but I have not been strict enough about it when she gets sleepy or sick.
Q: What are three things every “Wicked Mom” should have in her handbag?
A: Lipgloss, credit card, and cell phone.
Q: Name three beauty and style “DON’Ts” for moms.
1. Do NOT try to dress like a nun now because you have a child. I am a big believer in maintaining yourself and not going into the “I’m a mom” funk where you dress like a grandmother. BY NO MEANS do I think you should look trashy or cheap by showing off all your assets, but staying stylish and wearing things that flatter your figure is the way to go.
2. Do NOT lose “yourself” when you become a mom. There is honestly nothing more beautiful than a confident woman with her own identity. Yes, kids change you to a certain degree, but being able to balance your child, your husband, life, etc. while staying true to who you are is super important. There isn’t enough makeup or clothing out there for a woman who loses herself. You can’t hide that. You have to feel good about yourself to keep your swagger and the rest falls into play. In my opinion, it makes you a better mom and wife when you feel good about yourself.
3. I CANNOT stand when women have children and they wear their workout clothes all day, every day. We get it, you worked out today. But find time to take your workout clothes off and put yourself in something stylish for the day and then continue your routine, whether it is carpooling or whatever.
Q: What’s the best way to get on your good side? Bad side?
A: The best way to get on my good side is just being real. I don’t like when people pretend to have everything in common with me. We don’t have to agree on everything, and if you have your own individuality and opinion, then I like that. You always know that person will have the courage to stand up for you as a friend when you aren’t around.
The best way to get on my bad side is to talk behind my back. Period, end of sentence.
Q: What are your hopes and dreams for Amzie?
A: My hopes and dreams for Amzie are endless. Ultimately, I want to make sure that she follows her heart and becomes what she wants to become one day. I want her to always remember to be proud of where she came from and thankful for everything she has and to remember her morals and values. I realize she is only two years old, but she is such a strong, vivacious and independent little girl. I know she is the complete recipe for a super successful woman, but I want her to always stay true to herself and follow her dreams and not mine. I would love for her to be in fashion, of course, and would love nothing more for her to want to take Swank and build it into a “fashion powerhouse.” I work so hard now, so Swank is an opportunity for her one day, if she wants to take over my business. Believe me, I would be overcome with joy. However, if she takes a completely different route in life, I will support her every step of the way!
Q: What’s the best way to discipline kids?
A: I believe in teaching your kids right from wrong and getting them to use their manners – “yes, ma’am” and “no ma’am,” “please” and “thank you.” We all know that doesn’t work out so well, so I am strict with Amzie – I tell her something once and then I give her “the look” so she knows I mean what I am saying. If she continues to test me, I threaten her with a spanking, and if she pushes it even further, I will spank her. It’s the way I was raised. Some people agree with spanking their children and some don’t. Everyone has their own way, but if you really want to get their attention and you want them to KNOW YOU MEAN BUSINESS, you have to spank sometimes. It has worked the best for Amzie, because she is stubborn and a lot like me, and that is what always worked on me as a kid. Who is to say that “the look” won’t work on my next child someday!
This article was written by nicole